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Resolution Roadmap for Conflict

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176 – June, 2018

by Debra Vey Voda Hamilton, Esq./Mediator

People who find themselves in conflict rarely choose to address the problem. This is akin to taking a trip without checking out the best route to your destination. They hope by ignoring a problem peace will return to their lives. Sometimes this choice works and so perpetuates the decision to ignore rather than address the issue. This is not always the case. Often things snowball and reach a tipping point. Once that point is reached, relationships are destroyed. Has this happened to you, either as the giver or receiver of built-up anger?

Conflicts are, more often than not, the result of the failure to address issues when they were small. You might have waited until you were at the end of your rope with a person, and then let loose with both barrels. Haven’t we all been guilty of this reaction? You were happily ignoring a fellow exhibitor who borrowed your things and never returned them or returned them used or broken. You allowed a breeder, owner or handler to speak to you rudely because they were the best or had the money/clout to get your dog to number one. There are a million reasons why you ignored things to keep the peace. Then, there was that one thing, the event that caused you to explode.

This event occurred because all the parties, even you, were bliss- fully unaware. Being aware is part of the Rapid Resolution Roadmap. By using the tips below, your ability to have a difficult conversation will be a thing of the past. You will not only know how to have the conversation but will have it.

Awareness that a conflict is brewing is key. People likely know when something is up. Your knee jerk reaction may be to rise above and ignore it. This is the best of all worlds. People have their own issues. If you can keep from making them your issues you are ahead of the game. This is called staying grounded. Allow people to carry their own water in a conflict. Avoid getting sucked into the middle of a conflict whirlpool.

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176 – June, 2018

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